Procastination

As we get to the end of the semester,i'm wondering where all the time went. I'm now faced with writing three different papers by the end of the month. hmm! it is all good though. I wonder why I cannot work like some of my classmates, I have to be stressed and praying for a 25th hour before i get down to doing my work. Typing late into the night and sweating to get my research work done. I promise myself at the beginning of every semester, that I'll change my habits, but alas, semester after semester, I do the same thing
They say " procastination is the thief of time" so i say get behind me procastination! Lol, you're a thief!
will be back after all the sweating and stress

school is kicking my .......

..... homework, take home exams and the likes has got me soo busy. I guess no pain no gain abi? I hope school pays off in the end both all the school loans and every other bill incurred in the process of getting this degree.
So whats up people? I've missed this blog.
anyway will be back soon

Whats in a Name?

What is in a name? I'm not sure this is the correct title for what I'm going to be writing about.
I'm trying to understand the purpose of Compound names. A few days ago, I asked my man if it was a problem if i did not change my last name to his after marriage. He told me he really did not care. I have a number of friends, those who changed their names to their husband's, those who added his last name to theirs and those who bluntly refused and still bear their maiden names even though they are married. So I'm curious does it really matter what a woman chooses to bear after she marries her husband?. How about if I honestly dont like my husband's last name or I love my maiden name. Honestly my name right now is short and sweet. But what happens when my kids ask why is your name different from ours? (and yes they'll will, kids ask the weirdest questions) Oh i'm a liberal woman or I hate your father's name. The beauty of it in America is most people call you by your first name or Ms.... as compared to Mrs lagbaja. And honestly who brought up the idea of women changing their last names? I'm really curious

Not another school shooting

My sympathy goes out to the students at Nothern Illinois University. 5 people lost their lives to a gunman who opened fire in a lecture hall Na wah o, Its scary that you cannot feel safe even in school. Honestly as I sit in my classes sometimes, the thought crosses my mind, that some psycho could come in and open fire. God forbid!
Anyway people, pray for the victims and their families as they go through this difficult period

It takes a village.....

....to raise a child.
Sometime ago, I was on a grocery line waiting to pay for my grocery, when I overhead an exchange between the cashier and the lady in front of me.Apparently, the lady who had her child in the shopping cart was cussing out the cashier because the cashier had told the lady's daughter to sit down in the cart or risk falling out. The lady went on and on, Its not your business, its my child blah blah blah. Most of the people on the grocery line were actually very suprised at the lady customer but refused to say anything
Few months later, I was watching TV and saw a report about a 14 yr boy who had been expelled or suspended for stoning his teacher. His mother was on TV saying 'oh he's just a child, he did not mean it, the punishment was too harsh, she even talked about race even though this school was a predominately minority school and the Principal who suspended or expelled the boy was AA.
My question is are parents becoming too sensitive or whats happening to parents?
Back in the day, while I was growing up, all my neighbors, family, teachers were responsible for my upbringing. I was quite a sweet child so I did not get a lot of whooping (lol) but trust me, that did not stop people from reporting my bad behavior to my mom, who in turn whooped me. My Mom always said "If you dont turn out good tommorrow, people will say you're your mother's child" I was scolded by family members, teachers, neighbors and everyone else who counted. I'm grateful today that I grew up in a society where my parents were not over sensitive about people scolding me or correcting me. I notice that sometimes, parents even have a problem with grandparents discipling the grandkids. If Grandma did not kill you, do you think she'll kill your child? Now If you were abused as in physically, then maybe there is a problem because you might have flashbacks and not want your child to go through that. Thats understood, or if you suspect, the adult scolding your child is being abusive or vindictive, then stand up for your child.
But aside from that, if a reasonable adult scolds or corrects your child, it might be for your good. Remember it takes a village to raise a child or the justice system to try to rehabilitate your grown no good child

I miss Lagos

I miss Lagos and all of the wahala of living in that place. I came across this picture on flickr and was like, I had to do a post about lagos. This picture reminds me of when I had to take the bus to do my GCE in Oshodi or to CMS for school shopping. No, I never lived in Ikoyi or in VI.(I notice that most people that I ask where they lived in lagos tell me Ikoyi or VI abegi leave story)
Anyway back to my busing experience in Naija, GCE came up just a few months after I left high school or rather the secluded life of boarding school and so I was on my own o. Going to CMS was with my mom, so at least I had company.
I remember the conductors hanging from the bus shouting "Osho-dii, Oshodii, 20 naira wole pelu change e o"( enter the bus with your change) lol. After the bus has been filled with the passengers, the conductor once again telling his Oga(boss/the driver) Oga mi go on sun u. (means go on) I also remember the conductor shouting the different bus stops and people responding 'o wa o' lol. Something that was also funny was "madam shift" na 4 people go sit for back o. But most of all, I remember a time when, there was fuel scarcity or strike, and buses became so scare,okada (motorcycle) was the order of the day, but people I was too scared to take okada from Oshodi home(not to say I had not taken okada on short distances before o).Anyway people started walking ,na so me self join them begin dey waka, I was soo tired when I got home."
Fast forward, a few years later, my first time on the city bus in Fl, I was not sure on how to alert the bus driver about my bus stop. I kept hearing a bell like sound and the bus driver stopping to let people out, I actually got off at the wrong stop because someone got off at that stop. That incident got me very home sick, I missed "o wa o", I also had to walk to the next bus stop which was quite a distance to catch my next bus.
People ask me all the time if I miss home and my answer is always " I miss home alot" Honestly I thank God, I grew up in Lagos and would not trade that experience for anything

Misconceptions

Whenever I identify myself as a Nigerian to people who don't know me,I sometimes get asked the weirdest questions, I'm sure if you are foreign born and speak with a so called accent, you can identify with me.Some questions I have been asked and my sarcastic answers include:

1.Q Is Mandela the president of Africa?
A. Yes, he is
2. Q.Do you ride camels in Africa, as in is it your main form of transportation?
A. Yes, the camels have parking spaces
3.Q Did you come to America on a boat?
A.Slave trade ended long ago, what are planes for?
4. Do you wear clothes/shoes back home?
A. No, we roam about naked
5. Q.How come you speak English so well?
A. We speak English in my country
6. Q. How come you're so pretty?
A. How come you are so ugly?
7. Q.Do you know .... his father is the king of Nigeria?
A. Yes, so is my father
8. Do you have houses in Africa?
A. We live in trees with the monkeys
9. Do you have Music?(honestly)
A. We dance to the rustling of the leaves
10. Can you speak afrikaan?
A. No, I speak Yoruba.
11. Are you of the Zulu tribe?
A. No, I'm of the Yoruba tribe
12. Did you ever watch TV back home
A. No we watch ourselves
13. Have you seen tigers?
A. No I've seen chickens

These are only a few of the many I can remember off the top of my head, If you have any, you'll like to share, please don't hesitate to do so

A 10 year old girl also just recently told me that she has visited Nigeria but was not able to visit Africa (lol, I'm not making this up)