What is in a name? I'm not sure this is the correct title for what I'm going to be writing about.
I'm trying to understand the purpose of Compound names. A few days ago, I asked my man if it was a problem if i did not change my last name to his after marriage. He told me he really did not care. I have a number of friends, those who changed their names to their husband's, those who added his last name to theirs and those who bluntly refused and still bear their maiden names even though they are married. So I'm curious does it really matter what a woman chooses to bear after she marries her husband?. How about if I honestly dont like my husband's last name or I love my maiden name. Honestly my name right now is short and sweet. But what happens when my kids ask why is your name different from ours? (and yes they'll will, kids ask the weirdest questions) Oh i'm a liberal woman or I hate your father's name. The beauty of it in America is most people call you by your first name or Ms.... as compared to Mrs lagbaja. And honestly who brought up the idea of women changing their last names? I'm really curious
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Saturday, February 16, 2008
Not another school shooting
My sympathy goes out to the students at Nothern Illinois University. 5 people lost their lives to a gunman who opened fire in a lecture hall Na wah o, Its scary that you cannot feel safe even in school. Honestly as I sit in my classes sometimes, the thought crosses my mind, that some psycho could come in and open fire. God forbid!
Anyway people, pray for the victims and their families as they go through this difficult period
Anyway people, pray for the victims and their families as they go through this difficult period
Saturday, February 9, 2008
It takes a village.....
....to raise a child.
Sometime ago, I was on a grocery line waiting to pay for my grocery, when I overhead an exchange between the cashier and the lady in front of me.Apparently, the lady who had her child in the shopping cart was cussing out the cashier because the cashier had told the lady's daughter to sit down in the cart or risk falling out. The lady went on and on, Its not your business, its my child blah blah blah. Most of the people on the grocery line were actually very suprised at the lady customer but refused to say anything
Few months later, I was watching TV and saw a report about a 14 yr boy who had been expelled or suspended for stoning his teacher. His mother was on TV saying 'oh he's just a child, he did not mean it, the punishment was too harsh, she even talked about race even though this school was a predominately minority school and the Principal who suspended or expelled the boy was AA.
My question is are parents becoming too sensitive or whats happening to parents?
Back in the day, while I was growing up, all my neighbors, family, teachers were responsible for my upbringing. I was quite a sweet child so I did not get a lot of whooping (lol) but trust me, that did not stop people from reporting my bad behavior to my mom, who in turn whooped me. My Mom always said "If you dont turn out good tommorrow, people will say you're your mother's child" I was scolded by family members, teachers, neighbors and everyone else who counted. I'm grateful today that I grew up in a society where my parents were not over sensitive about people scolding me or correcting me. I notice that sometimes, parents even have a problem with grandparents discipling the grandkids. If Grandma did not kill you, do you think she'll kill your child? Now If you were abused as in physically, then maybe there is a problem because you might have flashbacks and not want your child to go through that. Thats understood, or if you suspect, the adult scolding your child is being abusive or vindictive, then stand up for your child.
But aside from that, if a reasonable adult scolds or corrects your child, it might be for your good. Remember it takes a village to raise a child or the justice system to try to rehabilitate your grown no good child
Sometime ago, I was on a grocery line waiting to pay for my grocery, when I overhead an exchange between the cashier and the lady in front of me.Apparently, the lady who had her child in the shopping cart was cussing out the cashier because the cashier had told the lady's daughter to sit down in the cart or risk falling out. The lady went on and on, Its not your business, its my child blah blah blah. Most of the people on the grocery line were actually very suprised at the lady customer but refused to say anything
Few months later, I was watching TV and saw a report about a 14 yr boy who had been expelled or suspended for stoning his teacher. His mother was on TV saying 'oh he's just a child, he did not mean it, the punishment was too harsh, she even talked about race even though this school was a predominately minority school and the Principal who suspended or expelled the boy was AA.
My question is are parents becoming too sensitive or whats happening to parents?
Back in the day, while I was growing up, all my neighbors, family, teachers were responsible for my upbringing. I was quite a sweet child so I did not get a lot of whooping (lol) but trust me, that did not stop people from reporting my bad behavior to my mom, who in turn whooped me. My Mom always said "If you dont turn out good tommorrow, people will say you're your mother's child" I was scolded by family members, teachers, neighbors and everyone else who counted. I'm grateful today that I grew up in a society where my parents were not over sensitive about people scolding me or correcting me. I notice that sometimes, parents even have a problem with grandparents discipling the grandkids. If Grandma did not kill you, do you think she'll kill your child? Now If you were abused as in physically, then maybe there is a problem because you might have flashbacks and not want your child to go through that. Thats understood, or if you suspect, the adult scolding your child is being abusive or vindictive, then stand up for your child.
But aside from that, if a reasonable adult scolds or corrects your child, it might be for your good. Remember it takes a village to raise a child or the justice system to try to rehabilitate your grown no good child
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